Bismillah,
Everyone knows how precious time is to a person. We are living on a contract that will one day end. Yet how many of us DEMAND the time from other people as if it is a given privilege. Often we hear the phrase "If it matters you will make time for it."
Sure we make time for those things and people who matter to us but do we appreciate the time those people sacrifice for us as well?
How about a new phrase to live by, "If time was given for you, rejoice and be thankful."
Everyone has their own way of life and their own way of living the little time that they have. Should we DEMAND they give up their time for us? Should we WHINE when time is not given to us? Must we always bring up GUILT and make them guilty by re-using the question "Don't I matter to you?"
Think about it. How would you feel if in your life someone approaches you and disrupts your schedule just to spend time with them doing absolutely nothing. Then not only did they rob you of your time they also force you to do the things that they enjoy and something you don't. If they really want to spend time with you, you shouldn't have to make them guilty to do it.
Relationships are two way. You don't make the other party GUILTY if you love them. The guilt trip is not pleasant and will one day ruin your relationship with that person.
Respect their time and give them space. Stop seeking so much attention and instead be comfortable with yourself and those you love.
I believe that in every relationship it isn't about sacrifice but allowing the other person to still be themselves when they are with you.
One last thing I'd like to mention is that playing mind games is a sure way to ruin your relationship. Honesty is always the best to ensure trust is built. I hate mind games and I abhor people who like to 'test' if someone loves them. A person might love you unconditionally at first. If you doubt their love for you, one day they'll doubt your love for them.
Alhamdulillah
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