Love and Space

Bismillah

I don't expect the people I love to drop everything they are doing just for me because I love them enough to know that they have their own life and problems to deal with. That's how I love the people I love. That is my kind of love.

It's not because I don't want to bother them and it's definitely not because I cannot rely on them. It's just that love isn't a one way thing. I cannot expect their love, if I do not love for them what I'd love from them. Just because someone views love as being able to drop everything in life for that one person, doesn't mean that the other person would feel the same. That is how I respect other people's views. If I have a friend like that, then I'd do my best to accommodate. I do not criticize them if they are not able to make time for me. I love them enough to know that their life is not all about me.

Love isn't one way. It's about knowing when you need to face life alone and give space to the people you rely on. Being independent and not relying on others does not mean you are not loved. It just means that you care for your loved one so much you'd take on the world just to make sure you do not make them worried. Once in awhile you'd go find a friend to vent out and relax. That's love. When you know each other well enough, these things come easy. You learn a lot about yourself when you begin to forgive. Sometimes, big issues become small problems in the face of a greater thing called love.

In my life, there were many times i felt slighted when a friend goes out without telling me, or does things without inviting me but that sadness never lasts because when you think about the days they spent with you, the moments you have shared and the friendship you have built, almost anything can be forgiven. Even when you are hated by your beloved friend, that sadness can be overcome just with the knowledge that she/he was part of your life. Whenever I'm sad, i remember 'Ah. She was a person who made who I am today and I am thankful.'

An opinion that I agree on and happen to stumble across: 

'I can't really answer because "best" is such a loose term it really is only applicable by the individuals who are in the friendship. Now, we can tell the difference in being friends and being good friends, but our perception on if their friendship is "best" is based on our own ideals rather than those of the individuals in the friendship. I could only guess. '

Alhamdulillah